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Ithaca Wedding Album ( Sampler )

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Whether simple or elaborate, your wedding will be a breathtakingly beautiful occasion, one you will remember and cherish for the rest of your lives. But the numerous steps leading up to it can be nearly overwhelming-the decisions to make, the arrangements to coordinate, the families' feelings to consider-it's intimidating enough to make you want to elope! 

So relax for now and take a close look what it is entailed on this page.  Then you will find it all have be laid out for you both.



Isn't it a glorious thing to gaze into the eyes of the one you love, knowing you've just made the best decision of your life?

"To have and to hold, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health…" You've probably dreamed for years about hearing those wonderful words and standing up in front of family and friends with your soul mate to say "I do."

"When would be the best date to get married?"  ~ Webliography:

Family e-books.
"When would be the best date to get married?" "Where should our wedding and reception be held?"

Wedding Planning
"When would be the best date to get married?" "Where should our wedding and reception be held?" "Who should we invite?"

"Where should our wedding and reception be held?" ~ Webliography
And where should our wedding be? LOL! anyways! and I am very sorry you have to know someone that is as stupid as you know who! I love you with all my heart!
uh, yeah! where should our wedding be? JeRelle. 4/28/2006 3:44 PM You missed my 17th Birthday!!

And where should our wedding be? LOL! anyways! and I am very sorry you have to know someone that is as stupid as you know who! I love you with all my heart!

Dear Uncle Ezra - Questions for Tuesday, May 9, 2006 - Cornell ...
As students prepare to leave Ithaca and their life at Cornell

Dear Uncle Ezra - Questions for Tuesday, January 22, 2002 ...
In Ithaca, there are many wedding reception locations

Too Many Chefs: Wedding Food
The reception meal in Virginia started with an attractive box in the shape of a flower filled with two chocolates.

Visit Ithaca in New York's Finger Lakes - vacation among amazing ...
Just 6 miles from downtown Ithaca, the armory is a convenient location to hold your trade show, wedding reception, large assembly or training seminars.

Wedding DJ - Nicky wood
As you well know, hiring a DJ for our wedding reception was something that we approached with a lot ... DJ Nicky Wood here in Ithaca is the best DJ in CNY.

Backtalk References Page
The Backtalk Band played for our daughter's wedding reception this summer and the dance music ... A wedding reception should be fun.

corey and doug album
keep it simple, but our wedding was far more. meaningful then I could have ever imagined it ... our way to the reception,. drawing everyone’s attention.

  • "Who should we invite?"
  • "What type of wedding gown do I want and where do I get it?"
  • "Who should be in our wedding party?"

"Do we want a traditional ceremony?"

"Should we write our own vows?"

"Should we have a theme?"

"What about decorations?"

"What type of food should we have for the reception?"

"Is it tacky to have a cash bar?"

"Should we register somewhere?"

"If we hire a D.J. can he also be our emcee?"

 The dance instructor for the ' First Dance .'

"What song do we want played for our first dance as man and wife?"

"Who will make our cake?"

"Where can we find a good photographer-and what about video?"

"How much will everything cost?"

"Can we plan all of this ourselves without losing our minds?"  

If planning a wedding were easy, there wouldn't be so many wedding planners, coordinators and consultants earning huge sums of money from couples like you! But wouldn't you rather save that money for your new beginning as man and wife?

Besides, you've already done the hardest part-finding the love of your life!

Here are just a few of the tips.

How to share the joyous news with your families and friends.

  • How to build a strong and lasting relationship with your future in-laws.
  • How to pick and purchase the perfect rings.
  • How to keep the moms happy even if you don't agree with their ideas for the wedding.
  • How to choose the members of your wedding party.

How to ensure every step of the wedding and reception is carefully planned and executed.

The legal and tax implications of your pending union-there are more legal matters to take care of than just obtaining your marriage license).

Tips for setting up your gift registry-make it easy for your guests and practical for you.

Wedding gown considerations-learn which of the dozens of styles.

Choosing the music-to go with your theme and personalities (a list of the 32 most popular wedding songs is included).

Traditions concerning toasts-who begins, the order that follows, what's appropriate (and inappropriate) to say.

Where to go for your honeymoon-the most popular destinations.

How to preserve your wedding dress.

Yes, that's a lot to think about-and that's not even the entire list of everything covered in this incredible guide! It is only a start too!

Did you know the average couple spends about $30,000 on their wedding?

 Considering insurance- Picking the clothes the wedding dress, bridesmaid dresses and tuxedos.
$ Making your own centerpieces-show your personal creativity..


Wedding Etiquette

Who Pays for What?
Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done once the date is set. Tips for dividing the expenses. 


Who Pays for What?

Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done, once the date is set.  Will the ceremony be formal, semiformal or informal?  A formal wedding, of course, will be the most expensive and the informal, the least.  Nothing is set in concrete.  Who pays for what?  Unlike a decade ago, the lines are no longer rigidly drawn. The burden of paying for the wedding has shifted in recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the groom's family.  Also, with many couples marrying later and having money of their own, they are sharing in the expenses. 

There are no longer any hard and fast rules as to "Who Pays for What", but a general guideline follows as to the traditional breakdown.


Traditional Breakdown of Expenses

Wedding Gown, Headpiece & Accessories 

The Bride's Family



Wedding Ring for Bride

The Groom

Wedding Ring for Groom

 The Bride



Wedding Gift for Groom

The Bride

Wedding Gift for Bride

The Groom

Bridesmaid Gifts

The Bride

Groomsmen/Usher Gifts

The Groom



Bride's Bouquet

The Groom

Bridesmaid Bouquets

The Bride's Family

Mother's Corsages

The Groom

Grandmother Corsages

The Bride's Family

Groom's Boutonniere

The Groom

Groomsmen Boutonnieres

The Groom

Usher's Boutonnieres

The Groom

Ceremony/Reception Flowers

The Bride's Family



Altar Baskets/Arches

The Bride's Family


The Bride's Family

Kneeling Bench/Candleabrahs

The Bride's Family

Rented Items for Wedding

The Bride's Family

Rented Items for Reception

The Bride's Family




The Bride's Family

Wedding Programs

The Bride's Family

Napkins/Matches/Printed Items

The Bride's Family



Marriage License

The Groom

Medical Visit for Bride

The Bride

Medical Visit for Groom

The Groom



Church Fee

The Bride's Family

Clergyman/Officiant Fee

The Groom


The Bride's Family

Church Janitor

The Bride's Family

Reception Hall Fee

The Bride's Family

Catered Reception/Professional Services

The Bride's Family



Wedding Photography

The Bride's Family

Video Photography

The Bride's Family


The Bride's Family



Wedding Cake

The Bride's Family

Wedding Favors

The Bride's Family

Groom's Cake

The Groom's Family

Rice Bags

The Bride's Family



Rehearsal Dinner

The Grooms Family

Bridesmaid Luncheon

The Bride

Bachelor Party

Best Man/Groom's Attendants

Wedding Breakfast

The Bride's Family

Bridal Brunch

The Bride's Family



Bridesmaid's Gowns


Maid of Honor Gown

Maid of Honor

Matron of Honor Gown

Matron of Honor

Best Man Formal Wear

Best Man

Usher's Formal Wear


Groomsmen's Formal Wear


Gloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants

The Groom



Father of Bride Formal Wear

Bride's Family

Father of Groom Formal Wear

Groom's Family

Children's Formal Wear

The Children's Parents



Limousine Service

The Groom

Honeymoon Arrangements

The Groom

Travel Expenses to the Wedding

The Out-of-town Attendant or Family Member

Accommodations for out-of town Guests

The Bride

Gifts for the Couple

Guest, Attendants and Family


Responsibilities of the Mother of the Groom
The mother of the groom is often at a loss as to exactly what role she plays in the marriage of her son.  Tips for the mother of the groom. 


Responsibilities of the Mother of
the Groom

The mother of the groom is often at a loss as to exactly what role she plays in the marriage of her son. This is even more true when she has not participated previously in a wedding for a daughter or other sibling. The following rules of etiquette are shared to increase the joy and fulfil the traditional responsibilities of the mother of the groom.    

Her responsibilities include:

  • The first rule of etiquette to be followed upon receiving news of the impending nuptials is to initiate contact between the families. Introducing herself and her husband to the bride's parents is her first responsibility.  This may be as simple as making a call to the bride's mother and telling her how happy she is about the engagement or an informal invitation to dinner at their home. If preferred, dinner at a nice restaurant is always in order. This may be with or without the couple in attendance.

 If the parents live far away, a friendly letter is appropriate. A snapshot of the family and maybe even one of her son as a small child is always welcomed by the bride's mother and is a kind gesture.

  • The importance of providing an accurate and timely guest list can neither be over emphasized, nor the importance of sticking to the guidelines given her as to the number of guests she many invite.  Remember to include zip codes.
  • It is the bride's mother who will first select a dress for her daughters wedding. A gown of complimentary color and similar styling is then chosen by the mother of the groom. She must wear long if the bride's mother wears long or short if she wears short.  The color should not match the bridesmaids, nor the brides' mother, but compliment both.
  • Reservations for out-of-town guests, invited by the groom's family, are the responsibility of the mother of the groom. It will be much more convenient if a block of rooms are reserved at a nearby hotel, which is near her home. 
  • It is the responsibility of the groom's parents to host the rehearsal dinner. This can be as simple as a salad potluck with paper plates in the backyard or as elaborate as an exotic dinner with live entertainment in the finest restaurant.  Everyone who takes a part in the ceremony is invited to the dinner.  It is proper etiquette to invite the spouse or significant other of those participating, and the parents of children in the wedding. 
  • Scheduled family photographs, prior to the wedding, will dictate the groom's parents time of arrival. If photos are not scheduled to be taken before the ceremony, the arrival should be no less than one hour before the appointed time
  • As the wedding begins, the groom's mother will be escorted down the aisle, to the first pew, right-hand side, by the head usher or a groomsman who is a family member.  A nice touch includes the groom escorting his mother down the aisle. As the groom's mother is escorted to her seat, her husband will follow along behind.  However, if the parents are divorced, the father of the groom will have been seated previously, two pews behind the mother. 
  • The role as mother of the groom, in the ceremony, may include lighting the family candle on the altar, along with the mother of the bride.  Family candles are lit after the candle lighters have left the altar area, and prior to the entrance of the wedding party.
  • The first official duty of the mother of the groom, during the reception is to stand in the receiving line greeting guests and introducing her friends and family to the bride and her family.    Traditionally she stands between the bride and her mother. If the fathers of the couple choose to stand in the line, she will stand between them.


Responsibilities of the Mother of the Bride
The Primary responsibility of the Mother of the Bride. more

Responsibilities of the Maid of Honor
Find the 17 key responsibilities of the Maid of Honor. Click here

Responsibilities of the Best Man
Find the 21 key responsibilities of the Best Man. Click here

The Wedding Invitation
Helpful hints and examples. more

Save the Date Etiquette
As the world becomes a busier place, more and more couples are helping their  friends and family reserve their wedding date with Save-the-Date announcements.

The Wedding Dance
Dancing at your reception is a lovely way to bring an air of elegance and family togetherness. more

The Groom's Cake
The Tradition and Etiquette.

How To Write a Thank You Card
A few ideas to help you with this important task. more

Wedding Tipping
Tipping has always been a personal expression of gratitude for service given and appreciated. Find answers to your  questions about tipping.  more

Calling the Wedding Off
You have heard it said on more than one occasion, "better a broken engagement today, than a broken home tomorrow." When it becomes necessary to call the wedding off here are a few suggestions. More


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